As a Motherless Daughter, How I Honored My Mom on My Wedding Day

Eight years.

That is how long my mom has been gone. I was 19 — still a child — when she died in the early morning hours of July 27, 2009.

And when I say that her death was the defining moment of my young life, I mean it. There is not a day that passes that I don’t ask myself, “Would she be proud of me?”

That is a heavy, heavy weight to live under.

I have devoted many words on this blog to talking about losing my mom at a young age. Losing your mother before your life really begins changes you in ways that you don’t fully understand until you’re older and your life is more established.

For me, I realized that even though at 19 I felt grownup, 19 was, in fact, too young.

19 years was not enough time with my mom, and I learned what all motherless daughters come to know — the memories of times past aren’t what is most painful. What breaks your heart over and over is living through all the moments your mom won’t be there for — birthdays, college graduations, your wedding, the birth of your first child, etc.

That is why planning my wedding as a motherless daughter was awful at times. Your wedding and all of its chaotic planning and madness is just something your mom should be there for.

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Loft 40-Percent Off Sale

Loft currently has 40-percent off all sale styles
with code SOGOOD. Online only.

Here’s what’s in my shopping cart:

Don’t forget to use Ebates to get money back for your purchase at Loft!

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Kohl’s Black Friday Sale Picks

Details

Black Friday Deals: 12:01 am Monday, November 20 at Kohl’s.com; 5 pm Thursday, November 23 in-store

Doorbusters: 12:01 am Thursday, November 23 at Kohl’s.com; 5 pm Thursday, November 23 in-store

More bang for your buck: Kohl’s is giving customers $15 of Kohl’s Cash for every $50 spent. Coupon will be redeemable November 26 through December 6.
With that being said, it might be worth it to shop Kohl’s for your big ticket items like gaming systems because you will get more Kohl’s Cash.

Pay attention: Kohl’s is notorious for great Black Friday sales, but look carefully at the details of items on sale. Kohl’s often includes mail-in rebates as part of the sale terms. Because I rarely ever submit a mail-in rebate, it’s not worth my money to purchase an item that includes one.

* Based on the 2017 Black Friday sales ads, these are the items I believe to be the best value. Select a photo for details.

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10 Reasons to Postpone Your Honeymoon

10 Reasons to Postpone your Honeymoon

As my husband and I approach the two-month mark of wedded bliss, I become more and more thankful that we decided to delay our honeymoon.

September WeddingWe tied the knot in September this year and will vacation at Walt Disney World over Christmas — making it a full three months after our wedding to take our honeymoon (or Disneymoon as I like to call it).

When we first began tossing around ideas for honeymoon destinations (you can read about our initial planning here), we were about 10 months out from our big day. So, we had quite a bit of time to plan a trip if we wanted to leave the Sunday or Monday after the wedding — which is what we thought we would do.

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Hearth and Hand Favorites

My Target Hearth & Hand Favorites

Like many, many others who are a fan of Chip and Joanna Gaines, I was up early Sunday morning for the launch of their new farmhouse style home brand at Target, Hearth & Hand.

Since it was cold and rainy, I decided to try my luck at shopping the line on target.com instead of heading out to the store.

Much to my surprise, I was able to score almost everything I wanted, and for the items I couldn’t snag online, I ended up going to Target for anyway.

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Fall Stitch Fix Review

Cool air, leaves changing, boots, vests, pumpkin beers — I love fall. Especially fall in North Carolina. It is just such a beautiful time of year here.

IMG_3759-EditBecause the seasons are changing, it was time for me to order another Stitch Fix box. I like to schedule my Fixes at the beginning of each season to help me stock my closet with a few staple and quality pieces that will not only last me for the months ahead, but hopefully ones that I can use for years to come.

In my note to my stylist, I mentioned that I was looking for items that would transition from the hot summer days to the cooler fall weather we are beginning to experience in Charlotte, NC.

I also specifically asked for trousers and cute, feminine tops, and I mentioned that I was searching for different pieces of clothing in shades of green because that is the school color of the university I work for.

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Something Old, Something New, Something Borrowed, Something Blue

When we began planning our wedding, there weren’t many traditions we were keen on keeping.

Cake cutting? No thanks. We’d rather just grab a cupcake and mingle with our guests.

Bouquet and garter toss? Nah. We’re in our late-20s and most of our friends are already married, so throwing out a bouquet or a garter that had been strapped to my sweaty leg all day didn’t appeal to us. Plus, we didn’t want to take away from dancing during the reception. We just wanted to party.

However, there were some traditions we couldn’t part with. Like not seeing each other before the ceremony, a first dance and dances with our parents, and, of course, my something old, something new, something borrowed, and something blue.

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My Asheville Bridal Portrait Session and The Special Meaning Behind These Photos

Now that our wedding has come and gone, I can finally share some of the images from my mountaintop bridal portrait session in my hometown of Asheville, NC.

As I mentioned in my 20-day wedding update, I wanted these images to capture exactly who I am — Disney nerd, motherless daughter, mountain girl.

I asked a friend from college who is an Asheville-based photographer to help me achieve my vision, and she did an incredible job — even though the request was kind of last minute.

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